The Hairy Scary Changes of Puberty
Did you know that, for many children, the physical and emotional changes associated with puberty can start as early as eight or nine years old? Yup, while the teenage stage is most commonly associated with hormonal changes, this important transformation starts affecting kids much earlier. Are you ready for the rollercoaster? Let’s talk preparation and survival tips!
Start the Conversation Early
Girls typically begin puberty earlier than boys, but it’s essential to initiate discussions early on regardless of gender. Normalize the idea that puberty is a natural part of life—neither scary nor taboo. By starting conversations about these changes early, you help your child feel more comfortable and informed.
Use accurate anatomical terms when discussing body parts and functions. Address topics such as sexuality, sexual intercourse, erections, nocturnal emissions, and body myths. Creating an environment where questions are welcomed and answered truthfully helps demystify these natural processes.
Initiate these conversations gradually, allowing your child to ask questions at their own pace. Emphasize the importance of respect for themselves and others in these discussions. Be body image positive!
Role Model Positive Behaviors
Parents serve as their children’s first role models. Demonstrating positive behaviors such as body acceptance, good hygiene practices, and open communication about emotions sets a strong example. Children learn valuable lessons about respecting their bodies and managing emotions by observing their parents.
For instance, if you, as a parent, notice you are feeling irritable one day, you might verbalize this to your child: “I’m feeling a bit short-tempered today, and I’m not sure why. I’m going to take a moment to collect myself and regroup.” This not only models emotional awareness but also shows healthy coping strategies.
Stock Up on Essentials
As physical changes unfold, having necessary products on hand can ease the transition. Stock up on deodorant, soap, face wash, and menstrual products as needed. Opt for fragrance-free options if your child has sensitive skin and be mindful of any allergies or sensitivities.
Navigating Social and Emotional Changes
Puberty brings not only physical changes but also significant social and emotional adjustments. Your child may experience shifts in friendships, new relationship dynamics, and a need for increased privacy. Balancing support and space can be challenging but crucial during this time of change.
Acknowledge their need for privacy while also reassuring them of your support and availability when they need to talk. Validate their emotions and experiences, even when they might seem confusing or intense.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Remember that your child’s pediatrician is a valuable resource during this period. They can provide guidance on physical development, address concerns about allergies or sensitivities to products, and offer advice on managing emotional changes. Don’t hesitate to lean on their expertise for support.
Navigating the Journey Together
Remember, puberty is a journey for both parents and children. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed or challenged at times. Loving your child through these changes means accepting the ups and downs, supporting their growth, and fostering open communication.
By approaching puberty with understanding, preparation, and open communication, you can help your child navigate this milestone with confidence and resilience. Embrace the opportunity to guide them through this transformative time in their lives, knowing that your support and guidance make a significant difference.
About the Expert
Dr. Christina Johns is a nationally recognized pediatric emergency physician and Senior Medical Advisor at PM Pediatric Care. An official spokesperson for the American Academy of Pediatrics, she is board-certified in both pediatrics and pediatric emergency medicine. With extensive media experience, the proud mom of two teenagers shares over 20 years of pediatric expertise with patients and families everywhere. Follow Dr. Johns for more insights on children’s health!
